Ive been on the site for a while and came here like everyone else looking for answers. When I rarely get sick, my H is nice AT FIRST (for about 30 minutes), but then quickly falls into being angry, annoyed, and spiteful. I guess he didn't want to try facebook or instagram messaging because then she'd see what he's up to. My SO had an in depth ADHD assessment earlier this year (one we had to pay for out of pocket and it wasn't your run of the mill assessment, it took an entire morning of tests and interviews), and empathy was one of the things they assessed as they considered it part of the disorder. Thats Of course my Hcalled right back saying he could not hear his phone(yet his friend heard his on the 2nd ring). yikes!! In the second, you instell a desire to avoid you, not connect. Don't worry your anxiety to high and relax. However, I work andtake care of the house and the kids. Because you are doing it and should own your behavior. We're still at the beginning of our diagnostic and therapeutic journey. Submitted by vabeachgal on Sun, 04/16/2017 - 10:08. Thanks, man. He didn't sleep well last night because he was stuffed up, coughing, etc. Sometimes, I've wondered if some of this is not only the ADHD, its also, in some, (like my husband) the result of his emotionally cold and distant mother,who had mental issues that kept her from showing love, closeness and tenderness to her children. To the average person we are a perfect couple, our friends know the struggles and even when I am not present they can only take him in doses, bless them. My "H" is 100% total Narcissistic! I felt like I was dying, inside and out. Now not now and love. You dont care about my illness. I handle everything around the house, she doesn't need to be thinking about dishes or cleaning while He finally, after our friends begged him to get therapy so he wouldn't lose a good woman, said he would go. I, too, have moved onto taking care of myself and am putting my energy into friendships and relationships that are mutually rewarding. My wife wants to be left alone, and I mean ALONE. He has No responsibility for any of his behavior or actions. Now I see, and now I can and will be your Captain Marvel. Submitted by PoisonIvy on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 15:38. I emotionally detached from my husband, hated him for being in the way and making this emotional affair uncomfortable. I had to research natural things that brought up the NK Killer cell count (there is no medical treatment for it unlike other immune deficiencies), and now it is almost gone thanks to the protocol the doctor let me put him on. That's not even in my nature.". All I had to do was pay for the meal prep, and pick up the meals. Duped again. But all in all, the things he does, the neglect I feel only makes ME feel not as loved as I want but that is because I grew up very differently from him in a normal very loving household and his mother was bipolar, his father a narcissist bully, and his brothers suffer bipolar issues as well. My cough doesnt produce anything other than an exsmokers clean up. Acknowledge the wrongdoing. Describe what you did, and why it was wrong.Promise not to do it again. Mean it.Ask for forgiveness. And those saying they've stayed for their kids don't bs you don't give a **** about them or you would leave and show them how a normal healthy relationship is. I never get any sympathy from him, but my children hug me, draw me upside down rainbows because I am in pain and can't smile, and try to help me. I know the empathy is in there, but it's overridden by the rest of their experience and the onslaught of perception they constantly have to sort through. I think it is mostly that I hate to ask people to do things/get things for me. Well, this time, I was calm, I got out of the car and changed my mind but he told me to get back in. Once shes mad, the first step to resolving it is by me apologizing. So i'm just learning but this is an ADHD trait? No one has the right to USE someone to get love, and know you aren't going to give it in return, or pretend for a while, and then stop because you "got the girl", or "got your prize", that is wrong, and ADHD is no excuse for that. First, BE a person with whom he would be dying to connect. Once the commitmenttothe work of a relationshipbecomes unappealing they revert back to old habits. He wrote me a letter saying how he fell in love in college, and she left him, and he didn't want to feel "that hurt" again, so he basically shut "that part" of himself down, so that he wouldn't FEEL that. (again, fear). yuck. This marriage has changed me, first for the worst and now finally for the better. I was so ill from stress and he never checked on me. Iris is somewhat of a unicorn a zebra unicorn even! Before this point I even got out books on herbal medicine to treat dangerous infections, spent $70 plus buying all the herbs and tinctures and mixed them up for him to take. It may make it more difficult to resolve differences or conflicts and the same BTW, when ourkids are sick he is mean and heartless. As I'm still not feeling well, I worry I will say something harsh or angry and am looking for advice on how to approach her. Submitted by AdeleS6845 on Wed, 12/14/2016 - 08:44. She was in her second semester of college and was busy with school and work. The world should recognize his presence and he should be treated with utmost respect while giving none in returnto ANYONE! The only thing he has genuinely shared from his therapy was the conclusion that he lies to everyone all the time. Confirmed. I count my lucky stars his empathy score wasn't way off neurotypical, but even so, it is affected, and I do notice he's MUCH better about me being ill when he's just had what I've caught, because he doesn't have to imagine how I feel, he knows from personal experience. Tell your spouse that although you But it only works if it's recent. Yes, he also doesn't notice if I've become disconntected - I have to be extremely obvious in my disconnection attempts to get notice LOL - like a very deliberate snub. I like what Melissa said earlier, about becoming the person our husbands fell in love with. #1. My job is a blessing to me though. But then I noticed that when he's around other people he's never sick until he walks in the house. He just gets on his computer. All I can say is wow. Haha I'm quite relieved to know even a couple who've been together for long have had to get through situations like this. Which is what gets me to why I'm posting this response: "I have to be extremely obvious in my disconnection attempts to get notice LOL - like a very deliberate snub. OMG. I left work early and took them to hospital, tended them there, brought them home and generally took care of as much as I could to keep them comfortable and on the way to mending throughout. This is the response of a person who lives in the present. Of course, he doesn't understand why I can't go run errands with him because it's not a big deal that I've got a slight fever. I've been reading the posts for the last few weeks with great interest. I couldn't even keep them down or even water it was so bad and my mom called the Doc back and he said if I couldn't keep the water or pills down to take me into the emergency room? Submitted by dedelight4 on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 22:58. Interesting. What? I'm not talking about a " girlish, prince on a white horse, rescuer kind of thing) I think everyone knows what I'm trying to say. Do you always expect your wife to cook everything? I know my friends ahave been instrumental in plugging that gap for me. AskMen, Become a Better Man, Big Shiny Things, Mantics and guyQ are among the federally He said he can never be good enough and then turned the tv on and left me alone, the whole night sobbing. I guess its just a character flaw of his! Now I'm going to get sick! Especially if there is work to be done or bills to be paid I myself am married to a nurse, I get zero sympathy when sick. If it's me first? And.as I have confirmed my father ( the Narc ) did this as well? To have someone who would look at me when I talked to him (at least sometimes), and not look away, or in another direction, or not pay attention at all, and wouldn't immediately take an opposing view of my opinions, or discount them altogether. This is a great take. I've told our kids that THEY will be in charge of me if I ever get cancer or something like that. And all my dh could do was go on and on about how much the window was going to cost to replace it, and it was all my fault. That lasted about 6 months for us and about 2 years for me to get over. I just got back from a trip and most likely caught a cold from someone on the plane ride home. Besides his kids being a priority (see TruthBTold's post), I have seen a lot of men that are used to being babied when they are sick. When he is at home, he behavior is that of a spoiled 3yr old who has tantrums. I love(d) H, and love (past, present and future)our children, our grandchildren, art, my business, my home. All I have to say about that is..THAT..is some Fucked Up Shit.right there!! His mother died from Alzhiemer's, but was bi-polar and whatever else. I want to say Thank you for sharing your story. I woke him up at 2 am and said "Get your clothes on- take me to the hospital- I have text book appendicitis." Privacy I take and I take, and then I take some more. it's not the same as OCD. I feel like crap so I have no plans of running errands. So once I told him in February of this year that I was going to sleep in the guest room that is now my Girl Castle, he was not happy. I really would like some aspirin now and not in 5 hours! All 3 of her children had severe issues, which she blamed on them. I could barely limp about and it was rapidly getting worse. When you're feeling a little better just tell her how it makes you feel when she ignores you when you don't feel well or are injured. He sees the painted parts and not the unpainted parts, because to him this is a lot of work. Ihave neglected you. out of the basement and towards you) and that ADHD symptoms are poorly managed. Yep. Good point. My ex didn't have ADHD. Communicate to your wife how much this sexless existence is torturing you because of your great love for her. I couldn't handle it. Make him whatever type of soup he wants, bring him medicine, rub his head etc. I would blame him for screwing up mine. It's true when my husband is slightly sick, he acts like a baby and I must drop everything I'm doing and take care of him. It means you're a dumb ass push over that loves acting like a victim. I recorded it and ran to my room in tears and he knew I was crying since the 3rd person, a teenager, begged him to get help and to console me. Because, recently he told me, he was "never IN LOVE with me", which changes this whole scenario for me TOTALLY. Whichever it is, I wasted most of my life trying to make something work that couldn't. Nothe kids aren't "more important" than her. Sometimes, he can be vindictive in a passive way, like after I left him for that one month. Life goes on, until Im better. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! When you find out your spouse is seriously ill, its natural to feel overwhelmed by fear and confusion. Submitted by ppester1 on Thu, 03/02/2017 - 14:44. Nearly 17% were estranged from a member of their immediate family. It was your plan all along to leave me on my own, wasn't it?!". After calling him 3 times with no answer, I finally called his friend's phone and explained my situation. However I do notice every time I'm sick, my husband acts as if he sick. Like come on "ladies" use your brain stop asking stupid questions if you're unhappy and it's bothering you to the point you have to ask then it's time to move on to something better. What does it take to stop running into these types of people? ExpectingH to become someone he cannot/will not be is futile. When my husband started his first affair, I WAS a good woman. He love bombed me too. Maybe I'm just expecting a bit too much. "The unexpected" threatens their sense of fragile balance. However Ive come to the realization that hes not the same as me. Some otc antacids helped. Your wife is negative because she doesn't know how to deal with her angry/upset/self-loathing emotions so she projects them onto 'faults' that you have. How can she stop? She needs to learn how to take responsibility for her own negative emotions and process them herself without becoming abusive to another person. Being unhelpful when someone is sick or injured strongly suggests either Borderline PD or Narcissistic PD. Several years ago they broke their foot (minor avulsion fracture) by twisting their ankle, requiring several weeks with a boot and wrap to recover. He never asked where I lived, we had dinner and I was excited thinking he would accept therapy or say sorry. Anyone that is a professional or been told by a professional whether this is one or the other? Thank you for the commendation. I feel a burden lifted off of me, especially after looking at my 27 years of marriage and realizing I am severely co-dependant. Yeap, but there are moments I'm being shitty too so I thought to myself this is just fair. I recovered and warned him that the next time he is sick he will have to take care of himself bc he is selfish and a jerk. You never waver. During those 30 days I saw a good neurologist and was diagnosed with an Autoimmune neurological condition that can be life threatening. It's "his" problem, and it's mostly a "focus" problem he thinks. My wife wants to be left alone all I want is take care of her just be there for her to help her I don't understand when I'm sick I love for her to take care of me maybe just hold my hand any one can help me, After 22 years of marriage , I've learned this the hard way and am done once our oldest has graduated high school. I am a partner though, specifically yours. Hearing him speak kindly of other folks, being gentler in his speech, since he KNOWS how unkind the world can be. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 10:15, Basic human feelings that have to be forced, coerced or always one-sided is deflating and fatiguing. I will keep that in mind. I got a friend to help, the truck, got a place to go, separated the bills (still paid his cell and medical in case he went to therapy), wrote a letter and tired to live with him without acknowledging his last tantrum, my pain and still having sex and accepting his hugs and sucking up to me and trying not to cave or vomit. The tender, close, intimate kind of love that touches your heart and soul, and makes you feel genuinely connected in a deeper emotionally inter-connected way. I know some have stated this, others have said the opposite. You know where I keep my emergency information, when to call 911. I don't think it's right, but I think it's true. Love. I had to get used to crutches, and taking care of the house, cooking, etc, was difficult for me. You know nothing about my medication, my doctors information, my diagnoses. I don't believe the behavior is intentional in my case. OP, assuming you guys have been married for a long time, possibly for more than five years and your work is what gets u sick and hurt regularly, I'm guessing she was not always like this. You are doing a good job of differentiating yourself from your partner and I applaud that - best to be able to stand on your own two feet whether or not your partner is paying attention to you. Submitted by sickandtired on Fri, 12/11/2020 - 08:44. I have been happily married for 22 yrs. I wanted to hope that with me gone, and only him in the house, he would get to live the way he "wanted". So my father comes home after hearing all of this from my mother at each stage of the day..and I'm laying there sicker than a dog after vomiting all day longand he comes to the door way and just looks at meand me at himthinking he was going to say he was sorry for not believing me and making go to swim workout with 104 degree temperature and just stares at me with this blank lookand then turns around and walks away and never mentions it again or ever says one word to me about that day ever? WebPsychology Today: Health, Help, Happiness + Find a Therapist So it's easier when you can say, "ok 20% sucks if I let it but 80% is fabulous". Join hosts Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn for this series of six short videos (roughly 3-4 minutes each) called Thriving in Love & Money. Theyll offer helpful tips, informed by years of research and based on their new book, to help you and your spouse explore the underlying issues that lead to financial conflict and consider healthy ways to Somewhere, there's a breakdown, a distortion of what he's entitled to, verses what he thinks he deserves. Ya, it sucks being sick but it's a stomach bug. I, ME, MINE!! He appears not to care youre pregnant and youre feeling unsupported. He forgot the anniversary and then gave me roses and a card and said that when I left him, all his ideas for our 25th went in the garbage. I have learned to compartmentalize my life and he is 20% of it now. He despises sickness- like it is a form of weakness or something. Partners are supposed to have each others backs, even when it doesnt seem like the best thing to do. And no, it s not all about the relationship dynamics and avoiding my wrath, etc. Blank. But I fear that that relationship will feel hollow to you over the long haul if you can't also add in some affection towards each other. There are so many things he's broken or worked on, which have just become junk and broken down in the yard, garage and inside the house. I sit on the couch and tell him I've got a fever. Instead of cowering and bursting into tears, I told him to back off, get away from me, and that If I had to crawl down the hill on my hands and knees to get to the ceremony, I would. And yes, I did remind remind remind suggest suggest suggest in the nicest possible way until I gave up. Get hand-picked resources and highlights from our Mighty community straight to your inbox. The only family Im in contact with is my 91-year-old mother who lives an hour away. If that's something that you can't handle, it's best to call it off. They want something done and over with, right then. So if you want to connect, you will likely be the one to have to bring it up. in Psychology. (Soup after you just threw up is too soon). Anyway, I got way off track here. I'm glad that's 'not in your nature'except that it is. Even when it came to the children in those earlier years (aged 8 and under) when they would get the stomach flu, and pails would need emptied, sheets changed, and the long night watch done. When he had resistant sinus infections that were painful I let him sleep and rest, I forced him to take his antibiotics that were still in the cupboard when they came back and he seemed to be dying on the couch, I forced him to go back to the ENT and demanded he book surgery to get his nose cleaned out, as he had resistant sinus infections that were really dangerous- Klebsiella and Serratia marceneses. Everyone desires someone to pay attention to them from time to time, without having to demand it or schedule it . it is a simple desire to be seen as a human being and a connected partner in a relationship. He said it was too clinical and she was cold. But that was a lot of days for him to be unable to make any time for you. People are either takers or givers. Once again I get "That's great! (and the smell, yuck) Even his clothes smell like old grease. My memories hold no feelings of love because I am not experienceing them right now. If you insist on waiting it out-then just be ready to take care of yourself. Anyway..it was really serious and I can't ever remember being that sick before in my life and it was horrible right? The former provides you both with a structure that can work (does for many couples.) Jan 14, 2018. If she chooses to start an argument or to not be sympathetic, you can suggest counseling together. Please share ~ the relief is amazing! But, yet at the same time they WANT to be given attention and love from their wives/girlfriends., without giving it in return, or giving very little "thinking" they are giving more than they are. I offered to set it up on his phone but of course he won't relinquish his phone, which is another story, and the primary basis of my divorce request. Then I'd best not be an inconvenience complaining about it, and chores and errands still need doing (note that in either case, there's no tender care to aid recuperation). Become a Mighty contributorhere. The behavior, not the label, is what matters. Love, to me, is caring about the welfare of something and wanting to put in the effort and time and attention for it to grow and survive. I take care of her in sickness and in health.but our kids still come first. Submitted by tiredmomma1 on Fri, 04/07/2017 - 12:12. I am not my illness; I am a warrior. Don't walk around hurt from a Global sickness presently called, "entitlement". Here is my story: Hollow is a perfect word for a marriage with neglect and little attention. I handle everything around the house, she Haven't had so much as a hug and a kiss in sympathy. Lol. He was so sick he couldn't even think well enough to do his homework. It sucks but thats what it is. And your wife mightve been But one person doing all the nice things, loving things is very hard and eventually we all get tired of begging. 3. So he's taking it easy today and napping on and off. ever heard of obsessive compulsive personality disorder? Need help with your relationship? Are you 5 years old? (Daddy issues?). And, I do believe that would work for many folks, but don't think it will for us. If you live together, your partner may want to sleep in their own bed with you. Boy did we cry. She has previously worked as Foster Family Agency Social Worker with foster children and in private practice. They were on their lunch break at the time, and went back to work - taking the automatic transmission car and leaving me with the manual. explicit permission. Like I was some animal in the Zooand he was just coming to see the specimen out of curiosity. If she's sick, and the kids need something, she's on her own. WebNo, that's not normal in a loving marriage. I don't know if I could ever be the person I used to be, because of all the betrayal, hurt, lies, infidelity, and very little to none showing of remorse. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. We already talked and we good now. Kathy woke-up startled to hear her phone ring so at 5 am. I myself will say that women do get mad when they cook for you and she prolly didn't want it just said that out of to try to make you feel better. I do believe he loves me. I hope you left him. Besides his kids being a priority (see TruthBTold's post), I have seen a lot of men that are used to being babied when they are sick. It seems to b The women (and a few men) who are married to someone with untreated or under treated ADHD all suffer from the something similar..A lack of love. Just the feeling at the moment. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. I jokingly call(ed) her "Florence Nightingale" because even others would notice how completely oblivious she was/is to any illness or discomfort on my part. And my mother ( the other one with ADHD who I got it from? If I could boil down the difficulties, it really does come down to lack of love as you described. A well spouses support and encouragement can help a partner stay on track, but this new role can also trigger frustration on both sides. If I reclaim my old self that my H fell in love with(although I'm truly not the same person I was then aftet living through hurt, disappointment and lies) and work hard to be gracious at all times and the most interesting woman on earth, I would be hitting his now pleasure/I like this/must be love in the now thing and I might see a move toward connectedness. I was really pissed and hurt that he didnt seem to care. Make sure that the timing is convenient for both of you. Submitted by Jr4par83 on Mon, 11/23/2020 - 21:27. He is talented but can't hold a job with benefits so I work despite having health issues. Yes my H also has ADHD, but it's not ADHD that causes his horrible behaviors, particularly when I'm sick/injured. He had the flu last year and I took care of him. H, has two basic emotions, FEAR and ANGER. She was in the hospital two days and has a 3 week recovery time frame. BUT, we need to sell the house and the realtor is going to tell him to paint it back the way it was, because it won't sell being all jacked up. Do you have kids that were sick too? Submitted by The Bride (not verified) on Mon, 07/13/2020 - 04:33. Do you think being obnoxious made him FOND of me? You carry on, steady through the storm. Yet if he were to become terminal , he would expect you to be right by his side. I was still in therapy and my therapist, who is a mutual friend and took me on pro-bono, helped me so much to rebuild my esteem, stop being co-dependent. I scrolled through my phone contacts and one name popped out, an old mutual friend of ours. Sometimes it's commitment to dinner hour where you discuss things together (rather than eating alone). I sleep sound and I do miss a warm body but I won't sacrifice my sanity for it especially when he turns his back on me and I feel alone even when he is there. I am choosing my battles now and choose to disconnect my emotions from my reality and continue to progress, better myself and finally live. Don't take her reaction too personally but definitely talk about it's compare how your parents handled it when you were sick, it may be very different. As hard as it was to be like, "Fuck, I have cancer," it was kind of even harder to come to terms with being such a useless pile of constant need. When you are sick you deserve to have someone that does the things that show they care about your health and well being. Nothing builds or sticks over the years. He was disgusted. with love respect and truth! Maybe I was expecting something like that. A male. It is a difficult way to have to be for someone whose nature isbenevolent and caring but it seems thesequalities are manipulated by the ADD spouse making the non spousefeel worthless. Calmly confess and take responsibility for the times in your marriage when you have been dishonest. WebIs it normal for a husband to not take care of his wife when she falls sick? I am sorry for your situation. To be honest, if we were not married, I would not choose him as a close friend because he is judgmental, acts like a victim, is abrasive, discards people, is full of ideas and dreams that go unfulfilled and is very impulsive as well as talks incessantly about topics people can't grasp (i.e quantum mechanics- high IQ, low common sense). 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